Did you know that 51% of Muslim mums feel lonely? It's hardly surprising when 35% of mums admit they wouldn't approach another mum wearing a hijab.
Muslim mum, Nilly Dahlia recently decided to take our YANA (You Are Not Alone) challenge, which is aimed at helping mums to feel less lonely. The task was simple, all she had to do was smile at other mums when she went out, but sadly, not a single mother smiled back. Was it the hijab that put them off?
So, she's set you the Hijab Challenge. Take a couple of minutes to watch her video and see what it's about. Learn, share and support Nilly today... why not tag a friend or take your own photo but most of all please say 'Hi' to a Hijabi mum so she knows she's not alone.
As Nilly says, "see past the scarf and see the person" - we're all mums going through the same thing so the more we're together, the better it will be.
Not sure how to wear a hijab? Check out this tutorial from Nilly for some tips – http://www.channelmum.com/video/jersey-scarf-turban-hijab-tutorial-nillydahlia/
See more YANA videos – http://www.channelmum.com/topic/you-are-not-alone/
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I tied a scarf around my head because I hadn't an umbrella and it started raining. after shopping groceries we didn't have a big enough bag and an elderly woman was INCREDIBLY nice to us, insisting of giving us one of her comfy bags to carry stuff home. I feel like that was a niceness that was supposed to reach someone else but me...
I think hijab looks so good, one day play with my scarf and put in my head (for one minute) and I looked so good and I wished that hijab is a fashion thing, not a religion thing, but since it is I will respect and I'll continue to think looks sooooo cool.
You're very beautiful!
Head scarfs, religion, piercings, tattoos, birthmarks, hoodies, no make-up, whatever it is, I do not care. I love making friends, and I love meeting new people. I'd be your friend 😘 xx
I dont wear a hijab and im not religious and i dont get smiled at or spoken to and i have 1 friend who i hardly see. I care for my mum and i have 3 children loneliness is one of the hardest things im trying to deal with. 😔
They dont wanna socialize because they're afraid, unfortunately thats how it goes. Its not just a piece of clothing for others, it represents something. Cant blame someone for the fear of unknown, being careful is what keeps one living on. Me myself love different cultures and beating the stereotypes, but everyone is different, just saying.
"just a piece of cloth".. if it's just a piece of cloth, then take it off :) if you can't or won't, then it's not just a piece of cloth :) you might be the coolest person on the planet, but people are still going to associate you with the.. well, you know what. I understand that people in the dessert wear it to protect themselves from sand and such. But you don't need it elsewhere. You really don't.
Ella Ella Dear, if u go any other muslem country, all women n girl wear all not the same. It's nothing to do with rules in Islam but what they wear about what they believe best for them & choose to stay 'safe'.Agreed by what u mean that relate to but, dont u aware not everyone know there r known muslim in paper but they actually not practising what been teached by Islam.Not all christian who born christian really follow what jesus says (example).What nilly shared is that WE (no matter what our faith) among humans we must treat each other good.dats it.
This world can be a strange place. How would anyone not want to smile back at someone simply because they are wearing something on their head?!?! I would've smiled the biggest smile at you Nilly, you seem like a lovely, lovely person!! Can't wait to head over to your channel!! Xx
You don't need these kinds women to be your friends anyways. Besides that, its not a good idea to be too sensitive about people's reactions. Sometimes people don't instantly know how to react to people who look different from them. Just ignore the incidents, rather pay attention and give love to those who adore you for who you are.
You look wonderful!!!! I'd have smiled back to you 😊... people are nervous about the unfamiliar, one of the main impacts we can have is encourage our children to be inclusive and celebrate our diversity! Definitely trying your challenge!!!!... watch this space 👍✋️ xxx
I'd love to be you're friend, you just seem so friendly and approachable, not because of what you wear on you're head! let's be honest I wouldn't want judged for wearing a messy bun on my head or a hat so why should you be judged? you just radiate so much beauty 💓 🌈💫
Love it I feel the same I mean I never was abused or being not respected but it is so true other mothers non Muslim mum never go beyond hello and they get to know each other and I am just standing there. I always smile to other and always say hello I go to so many play groups and Parks I do it for the kids not for me but I am trying to say that I am surrounded by other mums but still I have no friendship
I'm native American and a mother of 2 toddler girls. I get the same attitude from other moms. I think they feel scared they might get rejected or just don't know what to say. although if you've tried smiling at them to find no good response they could still be growing in this new generation. I think you are beautiful no matter what you wear as long as you are kind. i hope you keep feeling motivated to be a great person then some . I pray you get a beautiful heartful and supportive group of friends. For me I find myself so busy to keep social with anyone when I'm with my babies and they are social butterflies. in public they say hi to anybody and only a few times we got some ugly looks. I always take those moments to reassure my babies that I love them and get them excited for an activity in front of the mean person.
please excuse the punctuations and errors but you get what I'm saying.
My sons primary school was very clicky and people would come into the school gates in groups , muslim mums included, people tend to stick to their own friends and forcus on them and not look at the people around them. i couldnt give a toss what you or other people wear on their heads, and me personally just wanted to get into the school to pick up my son and get out of there like alot of people do unfortunatly, i had a set couple of people i would talk to and that was it, as i dont like being around many people. I was glad when my son left that school and i was able to avoid people but my son has a very social life and isnt crippled by it. cant speak for others but if someone kept smiling at me brightly i would be very suspicious and not because how she was dressed lol
Love this nilly; amazing to turn what must have been horrible, not being smiled at, into such a positive! Will definitely be donning my scarf and smiling at everyone tomorrow :-) Being a mum is the biggest thing any of us can have in common; no matter our age or religion - we all need each other on this crazy ride of motherhood xxxx
It saddens me that anyone would be rude or abusive to you. I would most definitely smile back and want to befriend you as I see a beautiful bubbly smiley lady who is so much more approachable than some of the Mum's I've encountered at Baby Groups. Wish all mums were as lovely as you it would make it easier to find mum friends xxx
I did a video on how I feel alone as a mum. I feel so isolated, a persons religion wouldn't stop me being friends with someone. I just want some friends and to feel accepted and just have a good laugh.
Nilly you come across so well on camera- you are beautiful, you are chatty and friendly, and I love your hijab style points and how you like to create a perfect peak. I can't believe no one would smile at you in the street, you radiate happiness and are lovely. Well done to you for raising awareness and showing people that we are all human and that how we look doesn't define us. x
Loved this video Nilly!! I really cannot understand how no one would smile at you.. one you are so smiley and friendly and lovely. Two you are gorgoeus! And three like you say you just have a piece of cloth on your head! X
How can anyone not smile back?? One of the things that makes me sad is where we currently live is very lacking in multiculturalism, we used to live in Luton and loved it and it taught my children that it doesn't matter what you wear or what you believe in, being a good person is universal!
Exactly. It's a natural instinct, I thought! I know how you guys feel. I grew up in a village where I was the only hijabi in the village, but I used it to my advantage. I was able to teach aspects of Islam to people who wouldn't have learnt about it at all, simply because of where they live and not being exposed to multi-culturalism! And, that moral you're teaching your children is brilliant and restores faith in the next generation! x
Not sure about the wrinkles. Am sure laughing and smiling makes mine worse lol. For me not only is it nice for you but it's important o teach my daughter that a person's appearance does not define their character and that she should be friendly and polite to everyone. It's something my mum taught me and I want to pass that on to my kids too.
when I was pregnant my daughter (she's 7now) my neighbours where a wonderful Muslim family with 2 beautiful children who o spent alot of time with chatting,eating, gardening then at 20weeks my daughter dad died during my pregnancy and they where amazing they took me under there wing fed and loved me hugged let me cry for as long as it took and helped me more then they will ever know. I am Pagan and it was never an issue I just remembe the only thing she said about God is "there is a God we just all see him differently and as long as we are good loving people it doesn't matter what we believe" and that really touched my heart xx
Any time thank you for reading it was an awful time back then and I really struggled but when my daughter was 2 I met Jamie who took my daughter on as his own she calls him dad and is her dad she knows she has 2 daddy's on here and one in spirit. Cut a long story short me and Jamie moved to the North west near Manchester 3 years ago and got married last August. I really miss my old neighbours now and hope to go visit in the summer thank you guys have a fab day xxx
Fab video Nilly, I have never approached anyone wearing a Hijab because I thought they wouldn't like ME or judged me or would be offended for NOT covering up.. I would definitely try it now though :) Can we be friends?!
my last 3 closest friends have been Muslim and my very best mate my BFF wears the Hijab. so very beautiful. And I myself used to wear a turban when I taught Kundalini Yoga for 6 years. Yes I'd definitely say hello xx
+NillyDahlia definitely and you can get such vibrant colours. Can coordinate them in such a lovely way and put beautiful brooches on them. Stunning. Really emphasises facial features like cheekbones and makes makeup even more eye catching. And like you say great for breastfeeding too 😍😍
Don't know how someone would be so rude as to not smile back at someone. Hijab or no hijab. Don't know why people can't be more friendly these! As a mum a smile can make the biggest difference to your day!
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